Understanding Your Child's Stimming: What’s Happening in Their Brain and Why It Helps
What Is Stimming and Why Do Autistic Children Do It?
As a parent of an autistic child, you've probably noticed
your child doing repetitive movements like hand-flapping, rocking, spinning, or
making sounds. These behaviours, called "stimming" (short for
self-stimulating behaviours), might seem puzzling or concerning at first.
Imagine This: What Soothes You Also Soothes Them
But before we dive into the science, let me ask you
something: How do you feel when you're sitting on a beach with a cold breeze
and waves breaking in front of you? It's so soothing that you feel peaceful and
forget your problems for a few moments, right? Are you someone who clicks their
pen continuously while thinking, cracks their knuckles, or shakes their leg
without even realising it?
Stimming is something very similar to what your autistic
child does, either consciously or unconsciously. The main difference is that
for autistic individuals, these behaviours serve even more crucial functions
for their nervous system, and sometimes they get stuck in a loop and find it
harder to stop or control when they need that regulation.
Just like how the sound of waves naturally soothes your
nervous system, your child's stimming behaviours are their brain's way of
creating that same kind of natural, soothing rhythm. Here's what science tells
us: stimming is your child's brain doing exactly what it needs to do to feel
safe, calm, and organised.
Let me take you on a journey inside your child's amazing
brain to understand why stimming happens and how it helps them navigate the
world.
The Brain Behind the Behaviours
What’s Different About the Autistic Brain?
Think of your child's brain like a very sensitive radio that
picks up way more signals than a typical radio. While a regular radio might
pick up 10 stations clearly, your child's brain might be picking up 50 stations
all at once – some too loud, some too quiet, and some full of static.
Research shows that autistic brains process information
differently in several key areas:
1. The Sensory Processing Centres
Scientists using brain scans have found that autistic
individuals process sounds, touch, and visual information differently than
neurotypical people. Imagine your child's brain has volume controls that are
either stuck on "super loud" or "barely audible" for
different senses. This means:
- A
gentle touch might feel like sandpaper
- Normal
classroom noise might sound like being inside a jet engine
- Bright
lights might feel blinding
- Or
the opposite – they might barely feel a hug or not notice when someone
calls their name
2. The Amygdala: Your Child’s Built-In Alarm System
The amygdala is commonly described as the brain's threat
detector, processing fear and other emotions, and researchers argue it plays a
crucial role in autism. Think of the amygdala as your child's security guard
that's always on high alert.
In autistic children, this security guard can be extra
sensitive. It might sound the alarm for things that wouldn't bother other kids,
like:
- The
texture of certain clothes
- Unexpected
changes in routine
- Too
many people talking at once
- Fluorescent
lights humming
When the amygdala sounds the alarm, it triggers the "fight, flight, or freeze" response. Your child's body floods with stress hormones, their heart races, and they feel like they're in danger – even if the "threat" is just a fire drill or a scratchy sweater.
How Stimming Supports the Brain
The Superpower of Stimming: What Science Tells Us
Now here's where stimming becomes your child's superhero
power. When your child stims, several amazing things happen in their brain:
1. Calming the Alarm System
Stimming sends predictable, controllable signals to the
brain that help calm down that overactive amygdala. It's like giving your
child's internal security guard a familiar, safe signal that says,
"everything is okay." The repetitive nature of stimming creates a
rhythm that the brain recognises as safe and soothing.
2. Balancing Brain Chemicals
Research shows that autism involves differences in brain
chemicals like dopamine and serotonin, which affect mood, attention, and
sensory processing. When your child stims, their brain releases helpful
chemicals that:
- Reduce
stress and anxiety
- Improve
focus and attention
- Create
feelings of calm and well-being
- Help
regulate emotions
Think of stimming as your child's natural way of taking
their "brain medicine."
3. Creating Sensory Order
Remember that overwhelmed radio we talked about? Stimming
helps your child's brain tune into just one clear, predictable signal while
filtering out all the confusing background noise. It's like giving their brain
a single, clear station to focus on instead of 50 stations playing at once.
Different Types of Stimming – What’s Happening in the Brain
Hand-Flapping and Arm Movements
What’s happening in the brain: These movements
activate the brain's motion-sensing system (called the vestibular system) and
send strong signals through the nervous system.
Why it helps: It's like your child is conducting their internal
orchestra, helping all their senses work together in harmony. The rhythmic
movement also releases feel-good brain chemicals.
Rocking Back and Forth
What’s happening in the brain: Rocking activates the
brain's balance centres and creates a soothing rhythm that the brain recognises
from before birth.
Why it helps: This ancient, primal movement pattern helps regulate the
nervous system and can quickly shift the brain from "alarm mode" to
"safe mode."
Spinning or Twirling
What’s happening in the brain: Spinning strongly
activates the inner ear's balance system.
Why it helps: Some children need extra input to their balance system to
feel organised and alert. Spinning can help them feel more aware of their body
and more focused.
Vocal Stimming (Humming, Repeating Sounds)
What’s happening in the brain: Sound creates
vibrations that travel through the body and can be very organising for the
nervous system.
Why it helps: Vocal stimming can help your child focus, self-soothe, or
express emotions when words aren't enough. It's also a way to create their
controllable sensory input.
Visual Stimming (Staring at Lights, Moving Fingers in Front of Eyes)
What’s happening in the brain: The visual system can
be easily overwhelmed in autism. Creating predictable visual input helps the
brain process visual information more effectively.
Why it helps: It's like giving your child's visual system a "reset
button."
Tactile Stimming (Touching Textures, Rubbing Objects)
What’s happening in the brain: Recent research shows
that touch processing differs in autism.
Why it helps: By choosing their tactile input, your child can regulate
how their skin and body feel, which directly affects their emotional state and
ability to focus.
Whole-Body Stimming (Jumping, Running in Circles)
What’s happening in the brain: Large movements
activate multiple sensory systems at once and help organise the entire nervous
system.
Why it helps: Big movements can help your child feel more connected to
their body, release built-up energy or tension, and shift their brain from
stress mode to organised mode.
When Stimming Becomes Extra Important
During Sensory Overload
When your child's environment becomes too much (too loud,
too bright, too chaotic), their brain needs stimming to create one predictable
signal they can focus on while filtering out everything else.
During Emotional Overwhelm
Brain chemicals like GABA, glutamate, and serotonin may
explain common autism symptoms, including the need for repetitive behaviours
during emotional stress.
During Transitions or Changes
Changes activate the brain's alarm system. Stimming helps
reassure the brain that, despite the change, some things (like their own
predictable movements) remain safe and constant.
When Processing Complex Information
Sometimes, stimming helps your child's brain organise and
process information, like having background music while doing homework.
Understanding the Fight-or-Flight Connection
What Happens When Stimming Is Suppressed?
Here's something really important to understand: when your
child can't stim, their brain might stay stuck in fight-or-flight mode.
When stimming is prevented or interrupted:
- Stress
hormones stay high in their system
- The
amygdala keeps sounding false alarms
- Your
child might have meltdowns, shut down, or develop other ways to cope
- Learning
and social interaction become much harder
What This Means for You as a Parent
Stimming Is Not Something to Fix
Your child's brain is doing exactly what it needs to do.
Different Environments Require Different Amounts of Stimming
In a quiet, predictable environment, your child might stim
less...
Suppressing Stimming Can Create More Problems
If your child can't stim, all that sensory and emotional
overwhelm has to go somewhere.
You Can Help by Understanding Patterns
Notice when your child stims...
Creating Supportive Environments
Instead of stopping stimming, you can:
- Reduce
overwhelming sensory input
- Provide
quiet spaces
- Offer
fidget tools
- Educate
others
How to Support Your Child’s Stimming Needs
Honour Their Body’s Wisdom
Trust that your child's brain knows what it needs.
Provide Sensory Alternatives When Needed
If stimming isn't appropriate in certain situations, offer
alternatives...
Educate Others
Help teachers, family members, and friends understand that
stimming is your child's brain taking care of itself.
Watch for Overwhelm Signs
Learn to recognise when your child's stimming increases...
The Beautiful Truth About Your Child’s Brain
Stimming Is a Natural, Helpful, and Powerful Tool
Your child's brain is incredibly smart and adaptive. Every
stim serves a purpose – calming anxiety, organising sensory information,
expressing emotions, or helping them focus.
Looking Forward with Understanding
Stimming Is a Solution, Not a Problem
As research continues to reveal more about the autistic
brain, one thing becomes clearer: stimming is not a problem to solve but a
solution your child's brain has already found. By understanding and supporting
these natural regulatory behaviours, you're helping your child build
confidence, reduce stress, and develop their self-advocacy skills.
Remember, every time your child stims, their brilliant brain
is working to help them feel safe, organised, and ready to engage with the
world around them. That's not something to discourage – that's something to
celebrate and protect.
Your child's stimming is their superpower, their
self-regulation toolkit, and their way of staying connected to their own needs
and feelings. By understanding the brain science behind it, you can be their
strongest advocate and supporter.
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Note: This guide is written for parents to understand the
neurobiological basis of their child's stimming behaviours, using current
research translated into accessible language.
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